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2017-07-25 10:18:26
The Legalities Of Spending Time With Your Kids After Divorce

Going through a divorce becomes so much messier and complex when there are kids involved. Once you have gone through the formalities of a divorce and split the assets that you have built up over the years as a couple, how do you then decide how to spend holiday time with your children? Here we take a look at the different holiday scenarios that come up for every set of divorced parents and how best to deal with these on a practical and legal level.

All parents are faced with long summer holidays with their children. It can prove difficult in terms of childcare arrangements for working parents, a strain on finances as a result and trying to keep children occupied and not to get easily bored for days on end. For separated parents this can become magnified due to disagreements over the time each parent spends with the children and when. There are a few steps you can take as a divorced couple with children to help the whole situation run as smoothly as possible.

Share Childcare – Work out all the exact dates that your children will be on school holiday and the amount of childcare that will be required for those times. That way as ex-partners you can come to an arrangement where childcare is split as evenly as possible between the two of you and all external childcare costs are shared. Planning ahead provides both parents the chance to sort their own annual leave, financial commitments and prevent misunderstandings that can wreak havoc at the time if unresolved.

Don’t Get Jealous - It’s easy to get jealous about your children spending time with your ex partner. Try your best to leave these feelings out of your life, especially when the children are around you, as they are probably more perceptive than you realise and will pick up on negative emotions. Your children will develop best if they have sustained and positive contact with both parents and both sets of grandparents where possible.

Involving Children in Decision Making – Work out all major ground rules with your ex partner regarding the children but wherever possible let them become involved in the debate and decision making process. After all, it is their lives that you are discussing. This becomes even more important as they get older. Communication is key between all parties, so discuss exam stress, medical issues and ask the children where they would like to spend time and when. As your children become teenagers they will become frustrated at not seeing their friends at weekends, so be as flexible as possible. The same goes for special holidays such as Christmas and Easter, where alternate years can be planned or different holidays split throughout the year.

All of the issues relating to how your children are looked after during the holidays as a divorced parent are workable with good communication. There will be times however, where you require the support of your divorce solicitor, putting in place strong plans during the separation process to ensure you are not left stranded once the divorce is complete.

Content Written By James Hodges